husband and wife in islam

 

It is among His signs that He has created for you wives from among yourselves, so that you may find tranquility in them, and He has created love and kindness between you. Surely in this there are signs for a people who reflect.(Quran 30:21)

 …..They are apparel for you, and you are apparel for them. (Quran 2:187)

Vile women are for vile men, and vile men are for vile women; and good women are for good men, and good men are for good women …. (Quran 24:26)

 We have created you in pairs, (Quran 78:8)

 

Ahadiths

The Messenger of Allah (pbuh) said that women are married for their lineage, wealth, beauty and piety. You should marry one who is pious

The Messenger of Allah (pbuh) said: "The most blessed nikah is the one with the least expenses.

The Messenger of Allah (pbuh) said: "O woman, your heaven and hell is your husband" (i.e. a woman will enter heaven if the husband is pleased, and hell if he is displeased with her).

The Messenger of Allah (pbuh) said that if a woman died and her husband was pleased with her during her life, undoubtedly she has entered heaven

The Messenger of Allah (pbuh) said that the best woman is the one that pleases her husband. When he looks at her, she pleases him. When he commands her, she obeys him. When he absents himself (goes away on a journey etc.) she protects his wealth and his honour.

The Messenger of Allah (pbuh) said: "May Allah curse those women who imitate men in appearance and those men who imitate women."

The Messenger of Allah (pbuh) said that Allah Subhanahu Taala says "Sight is a poisonous arrow of the devil. Whosoever, whether male or female protects himself or herself from evil glances will be granted a sweet Iman (faith) which will please his/her heart."

The Messenger of Allah (pbuh) said: There are 3 persons whose prayer (salaah) is not accepted nor does any good act of theirs reach the sky. Firstly, a runaway slave until he returns to his master. Secondly, an woman whose husband is displeased with her and thirdly an intoxicated person as long as he does not repent from using intoxicants.

The Messenger of Allah (pbuh) said that evil (Shaytaan)  (the devil) sits on his throne daily and dispatches his agents to work among human beings. One of the agents returns and says that I made a certain person commit a sin, another says I got so and so involved in this offence. Upon listening to all this evil (Shaytaan) says that you have done nothing great. Eventually one representative comes and says that I saw a husband and wife extremely devoted to each other. I sowed the seeds of enmity between them. On hearing this evil (Shaytaan) becomes happy and embracing his agent says that you have achieved something great.

Ibn Abbas Radhiallahu anhu narrates that a woman came to The Messenger of Allah (pbuh) and said: "I have come as a representative of all women. We want to present a petition to you. Jihaad is fardh (compulsory) on men and only they obtain the reward of martyrdom. We women are deprived of it although we take responsibility for all their domestic affairs". The Messenger of Allah (pbuh) said: "Convey this message on my behalf to all the women that they can achieve the reward of jihaad by obeying their husbands, but very few women consider this to be a reward."

The Messenger of Allah (pbuh) said: "When any woman troubles her husband, the celestial bride (hur) of heaven calls out "Woe to you. Do not trouble him. He is temporarily with you. He is going to leave you and be our guest. Why do you trouble our beloved?

The Messenger of Allah (pbuh) said that the woman who performed her five daily prayers and kept the fast of Ramadan and protected herself from evil acts i.e. adultery and obeyed her husband, has a choice to enter heaven from whichever door she pleases.

It is reported from Hazrat Ibn Umar Radhiallahu Anhu that The Messenger of Allah (pbuh) said that when a woman leaves her home without her husband's consent then all the angels of the skies and the entire universe curse her for this act until she returns home.

The Messenger of Allah (pbuh) said "A woman cannot fulfill the rights of Allah without fulfilling the rights of her husband. Even if a woman is busy at the stove and the husband calls her, in that busy period also she must leave all her work and answer his request.

The Messenger of Allah (pbuh) said: "The rights of the husband on the wife are so great that if pus flows on the husband's body and the woman licks it clean, then too his rights will not be fully fulfilled.

The Messenger of Allah (pbuh) said that the fragrance of heaven will be forbidden for a woman who asks her husband for divorce without any valid reason.

The Messenger of Allah (pbuh) said: "The worst person on the day of Qiyamah will be the one who reveals the private life of his wife to others."

The Messenger of Allah (pbuh) said: "When a husband calls his wife at night to have relations with her and she refuses without a valid Shari reason, she is cursed throughout the night by the angels."

The Messenger of Allah (pbuh) Whenever a strange man and woman meet in seclusion devil (Shaytaan) definitely is the third one by joining them.

The Messenger of Allah (pbuh) said: "A woman should be kept concealed. When she emerges from the home without necessity, devil (Shaytaan) makes her appealing in the sight of men.

The Messenger of Allah (pbuh) said : "When heaven and hell were shown to me I saw that the majority of the inmates of hell were women.

The Messenger of Allah (pbuh) said: "It is not permissible for any woman to fast optionally without her husband's permission, and it is not permissible for her to allow anyone into his house without his consent.

The Messenger of Allah (pbuh) said: "It is extremely abominable for a woman's shoulder to touch a man. It is better to touch a pig that is all messed up than for a woman to touch the body of a strange man.