Position of Parents in Islam

 

Your Lord has decreed that you worship none but Him, and do good to parents. If any one of them or both of them reach old age, do not say to them: uff (a word or expression of anger or contempt) and do not scold them, and address them with respectful words,(Qur’an 17:23)
And We have enjoined upon man to do good to his parents. His mother carried him with difficulty and delivered him with difficulty. And his carrying and his weaning is (in) thirty months, until when he attains his maturity and reaches forty years, he says, “My Lord, grant me that I offer gratitude for the favour You have bestowed upon me and upon my parents, and that I do righteous deeds that You like. And set righteousness, for my sake, in my progeny. Of course, I repent to you, and truly I am one of those who submit to You.”(Qur’an 46:15)
We commanded man (to be good) in respect of his parents. His mother carried him (in her womb) despite weakness upon weakness, and his weaning is in two years. (We said to man,) “Be grateful to Me, and to your parents. To Me is the ultimate return.(Qur’an 31:14)
“You shall not worship anyone other than Allah; and you shall do good to the parents, and to near of kin, and to orphans and the needy.(Qur’an 2:83)
 Our Lord, forgive me and my parents and all believers on the day when reckoning shall take place.”(Qur’an 14:41)
“My Lord, be merciful to them as they have brought me up in my childhood.”(Qur’an 17:24)
  Narrated Abü Hurairah A man came to Allah's Messenger (PBUH), and said, "O Allah's Messenger! Who is more entitled to be treated with the best companionship by me?" The Prophet ; said, "Your mother." The man said ,"Who is next?" The Prophet A said ,"Your mother." The man further said,"Who is next?" The Prophet (PBUH)  said, "Your mother." The man asked (for the fourth time), "Who is next?" The Prophet (PBUH) said, "Your father."(Sahih Bukhari 5971)
  Narrated 'Abdullah bin 'Amr: A man asked the Prophet , "Shall I participate in Jihãd?" The Prophet (PBUH) said, "Are your parents living?" The man said, "Yes." The Prophet  said, "Do Jihãd for their benefit.,(Sahih Bukhari 5972)
(Note  - Jihad is compulsory for the Muslim community. So a Muslim should take permission from his parents to go for it, but when an enemy of Islam attacks the Muslim rights or their country, then he does not need the permission of parents.)
 Narrated 'Abdullah bin 'Amr (RA) Allah's Messenger (PBUH) said, "It is one of the greatest sins that a man should curse his parents." It was asked (by the people), "O Allah's Messenger! How does a man curse his parents?" The Prophet ij said, "The man abuses the father of another man and the latter abuses the father of the former and abuses his mother."(Sahih Bukhari 5973)
 Narrated Asma': "My mother who was a Musjrikah (pagan, etc.), came with her father during the period of the peace pact between the Muslims and the Quraish infidels. I went to seek the advice of the Prophet saying, "My mother has arrived and she is hoping (for my favour)." The Prophet said, "Yes, be good to your mother."(Sahih Bukhari 5979)
If One or both of a person’s parents are  alive and he does not honor them and he dies let him perish in the fire of hell.The prophet (pbuh) said Ameen on this supplication by jibril(AS) (Tirmidhi 3545)
It was narrated from  Mu'iwiyah bin Jihimah As-Sulamthat Jshimah came to the Prophet and said: "O Messenger of Allih! I want to go out and fight , (in jihad) and I have come to ask  your advice." He said: "Do you have a mother?" He said: "Yes."  He said: "Then stay with her, for  Paradise is beneath her feet."(Sunan an Nasai 3106)
Abdullâh bin 'Amr bin A1-'As said: "A man came to the Prophet of Allah and said: 'I swear my allegiance to you, that I will migrate and engage in Jihâd, seeking reward from Allah.' He (pbuh) said: 'Are either of your parents alive?' He said: 'Yes, both of them.' He said: 'Are you seeking reward from Allah?' He said: 'Yes.' He said: 'Then go back to your parents and be a good companion to them." (Sahih Muslim 6507)
 It was narrated from Abü Hurairah that the Prophet said: "May his nose be rubbed in the dust, may his nose be rubbed in the dust, may his nose be rubbed in the dust." It was said: "Who, O Messenger of Allah?" He said: "The one whose parents, one or both of them, reach old age during his lifetime and he does not enter Paradise."(Sahih Muslim 6510)
It was narrated from 'Abdullâh bin 'Umar that the Prophet said: "The best act of Birr(Being dutiful and reverential to one's parents.) is for a man to uphold ties with the friends of his father." (Sahih Muslim 6514)